The word CRAB MENTALITY is used to label a kind of egotistic, short-sighted thinking which runs along the lines of “if I can’t have it, neither can you.” This term is widely used among Filipinos, who use it explicitly to refer to individuals who pull other people down, belittling them rather than letting them get forward or pursue their dreams. As an over-all rule, a denunciation of having a crab mentality is a pitiable reflection on someone’s persona.
Visualize a pot of live crabs being cooked in boiling water. Struggling for survival, all of them would certainly try to survive. One crab could no doubt climb its way out of the pot. But this is not easy, because the other crabs underneath him would not let him escape. They will pull him down, thinking “If I can’t escape here, then you cannot too.” A few minutes later, all of them will not be able to survive.
Sometimes, the crabs seem almost malicious, waiting until the other crabs has almost escaped before yanking it back into the pot. All of the crabs are undoubtedly aware of the fact that their fate is probably not going to be very pleasurable, so people are led to wonder why they pull each other back into the bucket, instead of congratulating the clever escape of the other.
When someone has a crab mentality, it means that they are unwilling to allow someone to get out of a situation, or to get ahead. In a classic example of crab mentality, people who are attempting to get out of bad life situations often find themselves foiled by friends and family members who keep sucking them back in.
The crab mentality is a reflection of the famous saying “we all like to see our friends get ahead, but not too far ahead.” Learning to distinguish the crab mentality in you is a very good idea, especially if you are working or live in a highly competitive environment.
The crab mentality can strike at all levels of life. Some group of friends are sometimes indicted of a crab mentality, with other members failing to think ahead or refusing to support certain initiatives in a way which ultimately drags the whole group to shatter down. In office environments, the crab mentality can be particularly devastating, as coworkers snipe at each other to bring each other down, rather than congratulating someone who earns a promotion.
Fascinatingly and unfortunately, such mentality is widely shown by several Philippine politicians and even Filipino fellow-men. This is the biggest problem faced by our beloved country nowadays. Many times people tend to pull down other people because they are envy or jealous to what had become of that person. People start acting like crabs because they did not accomplished what others had done. For example despite of other people success they were given a lot of negative comments, negative issues just to destroy their reputations.
I think the solution for this kind of cancer sickness is just in ourselves, we should just act together as one. Filipinos should just work for our own people. We should help each other starting in our individual selves, family, community, government until the whole Philippines learned to cure this kind of sickness. After we have come over this crab mentality thing, our country will somehow cope with other countries that have higher economic capabilities than ours. We should help improve our own lives instead of destroying others’ lives. We should give good comments or suggestions that could help other Filipinos gain insights of pursuing their dreams and living in a better way. So therefore Crab Mentality will be avoided.
My love of horses came at the tender age of 8. I was living in a small bario of Saliducon called Tibaol where my parents raised me. My lolo had a horse and gave me a foal as his Christmas gift for me. I named her Nacky Junior. Sound’s funny though. LOL!Whatever…! OK let’s be serious. Do you want to know more about horseback riding? Alright, I’ll share you some hints.
- BALANCED SEAT OR THE CORRECT POSTURE. Still makes all the difference in a safe, comfortable ride for both the horse and the rider. Riders not only learn the correct way to sit upon the horse, they also learn about horsemanship, etiquette and the overall terminology associated with riding a horse properly.When balanced seat riding is mastered, the rider will have exercised every muscle, tendon and ligament, from their head to their toes. Being a correctly balanced seat rider is equivalent to doing a triathlon.
- KEEP YOUR HEELS DOWN. Why? Because not only does it make you more secure, but it also stops your foot from being caught in the stirrup should the horse spook. Always ride in complete control. As with cars or bikes, the faster you go the faster things can go wrong.
- PERSONALITY. Personalities play the main role when I put myself as rider and horse together. An outgoing person will usually be paired with an outgoing horse. The horse has to complete the rider, and the rider has to complete the horse. One is not more important than the other. It’s all about the safety of the pair. Personalities have to match. They need to be a good fit.
Riding for me has always been somewhat of a fantasy. It’s my way of catching dreams while leaving the rest of the world behind. ”It’s magical” Problems just seem to disappear. I miss those simple days of laughter, fun, and joy. I miss my horse, I miss my childhood! I also miss my Lolo, he taught me everything I needed to know about horses. I owe it all to him.